Comments on: Is It Rude to Buy Gifts That Aren’t on the Registry?

By: Minnesota Momma

Minnesota Momma — Sun, 02 Jun 2024 00:54:55 +0000

You get what you get and you don’t pitch a fit. Something we should learn before kindergarten. That said – I hate registries. What’s really annoying is when people send gift registries for preschoolers birthday parties. It’s a gift. The giver isn’t a genie in a bottle.

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Tue, 11 May 2010 02:12:08 +0000

I love the notion that many of you voiced… a gift, is a gift no matter what and that no gifts should be expected.

By: Ophie

Ophie — Fri, 07 May 2010 22:38:19 +0000

Gifts are meant to be given from the heart, not from a list of pre-planned, overpriced, no-thought-required, made in china crap. Just my humble opinion, ha ha.

Seriously - a cousin by marriage was having a girl (pre-named Mya, isn't that sweet?) and the shower invites read "Mya has already received plenty of handmade blankets, etc. Mya's Mommy is registered for items she needs at Macy's..."

What a crock - many of our older relatives celebrate a new baby by creating a handmade blanket, dress, or other creative item.

Shame on Mya's no-couth Mommy for discouraging those relatives from creating their gift, rather than purchasing it.

Of course, I got Mya a beautiful crocheted blanket as a gift. LOL
Don't tell ME what to buy as a gift...

By: Frugal Babe

Frugal Babe — Tue, 04 May 2010 17:15:08 +0000

I have a hate-hate relationship with gift registries. But with that said, I do purchase things off the registries if I don't know the recipient that well. If it's someone I know well, I usually give a handmade gift (either made by me, or from Etsy). I have never registered for anything in my life, and refused to allow anyone to host a bridal shower or baby shower for me. When I graduated from high school and college, I didn't send announcements, because let's face it – those are pretty much just requests for gifts, especially for people you know won't be able to attend. I can't stand the idea that gifts are something to expect. I believe that having a baby or getting married or graduating is a gift in and of itself, and to expect people to give you things just because of these occasions is crazy. BUT, I love to give gifts, and I always do so when one of my friends gets married, has a baby, or a birthday, etc. I just think it's important to keep in mind that gifts are ALWAYS a privilege and not a right.
Ok, stepping down off of my soapbox 🙂

By: Cate

Cate — Tue, 04 May 2010 13:56:36 +0000

I'm conflicted on this, so I think it depends. If you know a person and their taste VERY well, then it's okay to purchase items that aren't on the registry. If you don't, then please, please stick with the registry! When my husband and I got married, we got lots of gifts that weren't on our registry. Some were wonderful (from people who knew us well) and others were just…well…ugly. 🙂

By: SarahA

SarahA — Mon, 03 May 2010 15:41:47 +0000

I'm puting together a baby registry and it's very hard. We got a bunch of clothes, diapers (cloth) and furniture from people we know so we really don't need anything except a few big ticket items (carseat, pump, carrier). I've been telling people who ask to just get something cute but I think I might start telling them to get us picture books.

I think it's ok to get things not on a list but you have to look at the list first and see if it's something they would want. If they didn't register for a coffee maker, don't get them one but if they did, getting them a nicer one might be ok.