My Husband is Not a Moocher

September 11, 2013 at 4:20 PM 6 comments

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My husband has many good qualities and a few that drive me absolutely crazy. He’s the type of guy that won’t let his parents buy him an expensive birthday gift, even though they clearly have the money to pay for it.

When we’re in a restaurant he always yanks the bill off the table and immediately hands over his credit card. This ensures that no one else can share in paying the tab.

If he rides your jet skis he’ll pay for the gas he used. If you cross a bridge on your way from point A to point B he’ll dig cash out of his wallet before you reach the toll booth.

I admire his desire to pay his own way, but I wish every once in awhile that he would accept gifts from someone else. Do we really need to pay for each and every item we use?

Do we need to split the cost of dinner when someone says they really want to treat us? Shouldn’t we keep our credit cards in our wallet when our parents offer to buy us an expensive birthday gift. Especially when we know they have more than enough money to pay for it.

No one else ever offers to split the bill or pay for the gas they’ve used. To be honest no one other than my husband ever even seems to think about it.

Today I was complaining about my husband’s desire to pay for things when my mom stopped me dead in my tracks. “You know”, she said, “It’s good that he’s not a moocher. You could never accuse him of that and you would never admire him if he was like that.”

She’s one hundred percent right. I don’t think we should have to pay his parents back every time we eat with them, but deep down I do admire him for wanting to share in the costs.

Better to be married to a giver than a taker.  Better to be married to a man who wants to give of himself than one who wants to hoard all that he’s given.

Thanks mom for the reminder.

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6 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Michelle  |  September 11, 2013 at 5:19 PM

    I think that’s good! W is the same way. You don’t meet many people like that.

    • 2. One Frugal Girl  |  September 14, 2013 at 10:10 PM

      It is interesting how few people I’ve met like my husband. I guess he is a rarity!

  • 3. Liquid  |  September 12, 2013 at 1:04 AM

    Looks like you did pretty well for yourself. He sounds like a keeper 😀

    • 4. One Frugal Girl  |  September 14, 2013 at 10:10 PM

      Definitely a keeper.

  • 5. Beatrice  |  September 13, 2013 at 12:10 PM

    My hubbie also tends to be generous, which can irk me at times because sometimes I feel he is TOO generous (with gifts, tips, etc.) but I would rather be married to that type of man than a cheap one!

    • 6. One Frugal Girl  |  September 14, 2013 at 10:09 PM

      Agreed! I’ll take generous over cheap any day!


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