Gratitude comes easily when our lives are in order—when the bills are paid, the children are behaving and our health is good. But our challenges are what bring the chance for transformation. And it is during our deepest pain that we can be most grateful, because we know our hardship will deliver a lesson that redefines our character. As you practice gratitude, give thanks not only for what you have, but also for what you’ve escaped. When difficulties arise, ask yourself, ‘What is the lesson for me in this?’ And when you give thanks in the midst of your trial, know that you’re becoming your finest.