I love taking trips to the store with my husband. We have so much fun goofing around together.
Today we ran a bunch of errands that landed us at CVS, Walmart, Harris Teeter and Rite Aid. I came armed with coupons and sales circulars. I knew exactly what I intended to purchase at each location and how much the entire shopping trip would cost me. I realize that sounds ridiculously anal, but it’s the best way to bargain shop and stock up on necessary household items when prices are low.
Actually I’ve been much less obsessive about saving money lately. I stopped shopping at Rite Aid and CVS on a weekly basis. I now travel there only when there is a really great deal and only when I think we will need a product relatively soon. While I used to shop weekly, I bet I’ve only gone once in the last three or four weeks. I take this as a sign of great progress.
When I shop by myself I am very good at avoiding temptation. I stick to the list and rarely deviate from my original intentions, but when my husband comes along for the ride I never know what will happen.
I definitely spend more money when he’s with me. He thinks nothing of adding various products to our cart regardless of whether or not they are on sale. I know it’s cheaper to purchase lunch meat and make our own sandwiches, but I know he’ll head to the sandwich counter where someone will make them for us.
I know he’ll reach for the container of soup although Harris Teeter isn’t running it’s monthly buy-one-get-one sale and I know that he’ll think nothing of buying a box of popcorn although it’s not on sale that week and I don’t have a coupon.
When we shop together I find his attitude contagious and I watch myself adding items that I never would have picked up if I were alone. When I’m with him I think, that nine-layer dip looks good and that brie cheese looks unbelievably tasty. I’m always amazed by how much extra food shows up on the conveyor belt at the checkout counter.
I still cringe a little as I watch the register screen fill with full-priced numbers, but I’m so happy to be with my husband, that it makes my anal, saving tendencies seem much less important. In fact, I think going out with him helps me put things back into perspective.
We make good money and we don’t have to use coupons for everything we buy. So how do I get myself to stop overthinking every purchase when he’s not with me?
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I always spend less when I don't go grocery shopping with the husband. Example: yesterday, we stopped at the meathouse for sandwich meat and cheese, and ended up spending $50. bad spending habits are contagious and we feed off each other because we act like we're still dating and it's a "date" so we can splurge rather than thinking "oh crap we're married and on a budget, and we have to pay for your $350 flight to Seattle next week!"
if we had the money, i wouldn't worry about it as much. but we just don't have the money. so again, i try not to shop with my husband.
can you give yourself a little 'blow' money each month? that would curb the guilt, i think!
Generally speaking, guys seem to be a little looser with money than ladies. I don't think there's anything wrong with you "overthinking" – it probably helps balance out both your spending habits.
If "overthinking" each purchase when you shop alone means a consistent pattern of denial and regret, then you should definitely do something about it.
However, it sounds as though you're pretty comfortable with your solo shopping habits. If it ain't broke, don't fix it?
I agree with commenter "Sense," though: Allow yourself a little fun money. If you spend it, fine — that's what it's there for. If you don't spend it, roll it over to the next shopping trip. And so on.
My feeling is that you're doing a good job, so try not to obsess over every dollar. Ask yourself, "Do I want it badly enough? Will it be worth it? Will we enjoy it? Can I afford it?" If the answer is "yes" then go ahead and enjoy the fruits of your labors.
I love the idea of giving myself a little fun money each month. It's like a license to let loose every once in awhile. I'm very type-A and I can't really blow money without a little voice in the back of my head telling me it's okay to do so.
Spouses help to balance each other out. We're each other's insurance that we don't become too anal, too stressed, too anything. It can lead to much happier living circumstances when you have a partner like this.
Spouses help to balance each other out. We're each other's insurance that we don't become too anal, too stressed, too anything. It can lead to much happier living circumstances when you have a partner like this.