I had no idea how much things would change after our children were born. No one ever talked about that with me prior to having kids. It wouldn’t have altered my choices but it would have been nice to know what to expect or at least to expect that things would be drastically different than they had previously been!

I’m sorry to hear about your husband’s business and the stress that it has put on your life and marriage. Marriage is incredibly difficult. Parenthood makes it so much tougher and running a personal business on top of all that can feel like adding flames to 4-alarm fire. We are still in the process of healing, which means bitterness and resentment still pop up unexpectedly from time to time. I wish you the best of luck through it all and an open ear if you ever need to voice your pain.

We are going through a very rough time at the moment (he bought a business and it is going poorly), I’ve wound up being primary parent as well as earner despite being on mat leave, I’ve just gone back to work at a new job and our finances are in the tank to say the least. Plus there are a host of other issues as well. Marriage is certainly not easy (as my counsellor keeps saying) and I know I have a lot of hurt and bitterness to work through regardless of what happens.

Again thanks for opening up, even without going into all the ugly details I can sense how difficult those events were to get through and I know how long it takes to heal and move on from times like those. <3

I always love to read your comments Revanche. Thanks for sharing your own mistakes. At least I know we are not alone in this one. I hope that time will make things better. It has been slow, but at least the trend continues upward from such a traumatic event.

I made this same mistake too, though it was my very own business I was trying to create (very unsuccessfully) at the time I was off with JB and it is no wonder at all, now, that I got absolutely nowhere with it.

I hope that, with time, healing continues. It’s a tough thing to let go of, I understand that about as well as you can without having experienced the physical trauma as part of a financial and overall loss.