Comments on: Is It Greed, Bad Manners or Something Else

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Sat, 06 Nov 2010 23:21:59 +0000

@spaghetti0625 - I love the story of your two nephews :-) I've never taken my niece and nephew out shopping, but I bet they would both be well behaved.

@scuttleboose - I got a lot of those same looks from parents and surprise by a lot of the kids too.

@anonymous - I did consider handing out the candy to the older children, but I like all of the children to pick their own.

@anonymous - I loved trick or treating and Halloween parties. Bobbing for apples was always a hoot!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 17:06:04 +0000

My husband and I talked about how much we miss tricker treating this year. We want so badly to dress up and go out, but hate bars and there isn't a lot to do if you don't attend bar parties. We looked without success. Tricker treating was one of my favorite holidays as a kid and it makes me sad that adults and teenagers are shamed from doing it. I think if you put out the effort to do a costume and go door to door it should be "allowed". We gave out about $40 in candy this year and would have gladly spent much more than that to be able to go tricker treating. Why is it only for kids? Boo! (I'm 35 and he's 43)

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 14:48:56 +0000

I let the little children pick and choose but I do not let the older children because at that point they've learned to grab and run. It also really annoys me when I see teenagers come. Seriously? Go out and buy your own! I used to keep candy I didn't like for them (Good & Plenty).

By: Newlyweds on a Budget

Newlyweds on a Budget — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:50:26 +0000

I think it's a combination of both. c'est la vie.

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:49:11 +0000

Extremely bad parenting and extremely bad mannered children. But it always starts with the parents.

By: Scuttleboose

Scuttleboose — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 19:09:06 +0000

I let kids pick the candy, and I was surprised at how many parents cringed when I held out the bowl in front of them. It was like they were expecting bad behavior from their kids and didn't want to ruin trick-or-treating by having to scold them. This sounds like a Catch-22.

By: spaghetti0625

spaghetti0625 — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 14:24:40 +0000

I think it's both. here you are, spending YOUR hard earned money to buy candy for ALL the ghosts and goblins that come to your house and they take full advantage. For some reason, I see my nephews. My oldest nephew is such a devil (literally, I call his satan jr). he never obeys my sister and cries if he doesn't get his way (he's 12). Was ALWAYS like that. Me? i was the 'mean' aunt when I had to babysit. If he didn't get his way, he'd cry and sulk and yell, etc. I ignored him, whereas my sister would give in to this. NOT ME. I know he probably hates me b/c I'm 'strict' with him, but I guess that's the parenting in my. So he would totally be the teenager at the end of your story.
My youngest nephew is SO great! I had to babysit him last year and I took him to Target to do some xmas shopping. I cringed at first remembering taking my older nephew out when he was younger, but this one? What a blessing he is! So polite! AND, he helped pick out toys and clothes for a little girl my department was sponsoring for xmas. 'I think she'd like this one Cioci Beth (we're Polish).' and he's never met the girl! And he always asks for things and says please and thank you...so he would be the one that would take one piece of candy, shyly too.
I like the idea of letting them pick the candy, especially nowadays b/c Kids have so many allergies and what not.

By: Maureen

Maureen — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 06:16:12 +0000

Both of the above. They did the exact same thing to me.