Earlier this week, I wrote a post called Do Women Still Want to Marry for Money? Many women weighed in on the topic. Some suggested that men prefer to be the primary financial support of their families.
Being a Provider for Your Family
While it’s true that many men make more money than their wives, I wonder how many of them prefer it that way. For a few years, just before my husband and I were married, I made more than he did.
It wasn’t a significant difference. Overall I brought in about 20% more per paycheck. During this time, he jokingly called me his sugar-momma. Honestly, I think he was proud that I could contribute financially to our future goals. My larger paycheck never caused an issue for either of us.
Sole Financial Provider
When we first talked of having children (we don’t have any yet), my husband remarked that he’d like to spend some time at home with our kids. He said it’s not fair for women to assume they should be the ones to stay at home and raise the children. He said many of his male friends and coworkers would accept the position if they had the opportunity.
I’m fascinated by this topic because, as a woman in an exceedingly male-dominated industry (software development). I meet many miserable husbands and fathers who would rather be anywhere than working 9-to-5 in a cubicle.
When I talk to them about money, they often say they wish their wives worked and made more. Many men I know are shocked when their children go off to school, and their wives want to continue to stay at home. The men I know are bothered by the outcome of their lives.
Main Provider For Your Family
I’d love to hear men weigh in on this topic. Do you want to be the primary financial provider for your family, or were you pressured into the role?
If you feel forced into this position, do you think society or your upbringing pressured you into it?
In other words, do you think you make more money because you believe that men should make a lot of money and provide for their families? There is no right or wrong answer. But I wonder, regardless of your situation, are you happy in the role that you play in it?