Comments on: Men Are Providers: Should a Man Be the Main Provider for His Family?

By: Rosebeth

Rosebeth — Thu, 20 Apr 2023 00:12:19 +0000

In reply to Belmont Thornton. Well females have to be the main provider of a uterus when pregnant an we also are biologically different then men considering we have twice as many pain receptors as men. Females also get overwhelmed more because our vision is different than men also and we have lots of estrogen that makes us tired and period cramps. Apparently woman are genetically created for child rearing and men are genetically created for work. So yes these mother fuckers need to be the main provider. Ladies stop producing with shit pieces that do not want to work.

By: Gleb

Gleb — Sun, 14 Oct 2018 11:24:07 +0000

I’ve never liked these views and I find it terrible for a human being to stick into one role he or she cannot choose. And it’s even more terrible when someone has actually an option “to work or not to work” and someone hasn’t just because of gender. As well as seeing you valuable just because you exist fir one gender and only if you’re useful for another. So in my 27 I’d never really stick into that kind of relationships – I don’t want being used as a mean to support someone’ s other lifestyle

By: Gleb

Gleb — Sun, 14 Oct 2018 11:17:20 +0000

In reply to Buf. That's fascinating how people stick to their views only while it's convenient for them. Not your fault at all. But it's time to meet someone whom you'd like who doesn't behave that way.

By: Buf

Buf — Sun, 18 Dec 2016 21:06:21 +0000

I am a guy. My former feminist fiancée dumped me because she was an associate professor, while my tenure prospects were low. That’s the long and short of it.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Thu, 16 Jun 2016 22:56:54 +0000

In reply to Esther. if your husband make you feel like a burden any shape way or form, do not blame yourself, blame your husband for being a pussy.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Thu, 16 Jun 2016 22:55:31 +0000

“my husband remarked that he’d like to spend some time at home with our kids. He said it’s not fair for women to assume they should be the ones to stay at home and raise the children.”

statement like this is complete BS, and garbage like this being taught in our society is why women are confused, and most man are completely pussy, I know plenty of man that makes way more than enough to be a sole provider, yet, they still force their wife to join the slavery work force with them.

why did i say your husbands statement is complete BS? first of all, the child is in your stomach for 9 month, how is a man going to compete with that? also, does your husbands man boob produce any breast milk?

people like you are just fucking stupid, and got brain wahsed by mass media to believe in this man and women are EXACTLY the same bullshit.

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Fri, 10 Oct 2014 19:18:16 +0000

In reply to Esther. Thanks for your comment. I appreciate your honesty. I think open communication is the key to a marriage and to decisions like this one. My husband and I routinely revisit our household roles and our decision to stay home with my son. I think it is important to discuss resentment and/or any other ill feelings as much as possible along the way. I think the hard part comes when so many years have passed without talking about it with one another. By talking about it you also open up the possibilities for change. After all, a decision I make now may not be the one that makes sense five years from now and along the way I may have as much of a change of heart as my husband.

By: Esther

Esther — Wed, 08 Oct 2014 03:16:52 +0000

The comment “a wife that pulls her own weight makes me feel very bad. I have worked before I was married. Another female by the way. And odd jobs since the children were born but I don’t know the pressures of being the sole provider. I grew up with traditional gender roles and have been quite resentful that I wasn’t allowed to work actually. Recently I understand that I have the freedom to do what I choose being an adult. It makes me sad to feel my years of staying home has somehow been a waste and that I am a burden on my husband. It is very humbling to have to depend on him and not get the respect that working moms get. However I will start by giving myself some respect! I am a domestic worker and get paid to take care of my disabled child. My husband has said that he will take over her care when he retires. This is hard for me but perhaps it is my chance to work. I feel like I am not being a good mom if I leave my daughter. Mommy guilt / caregiver guilt! But I see my husband has resented being our sole provider which is sad we didn’t discuss this honestly before!

By: Benjamin Bankruptcy

Benjamin Bankruptcy — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 00:36:15 +0000

I'm a guy recently settled down. I'd love to be a stay at home Dad. Frankly I'm not sure why I would want to have a child I never saw? I don't want a day care centre to raise my kids. Personally I'd rather be at home with my child than living in cubical world. I earn more money but my partner LOVES her job I'm just doing it for the dollars. For me it makes more sense for her to work and me to stay at home and do some consultancy work.

The only issue is I can't breast feed :(

I would say though that there is a lot of pressure on men to provide and earn more than their partner. Even in todays world.

At the moment there's a lot of discussion on this point in Australia because we just got our first Female Prime Minister (our "president" for USA readers) she's unmarried, has no kids and her partner is a male hairdresser. Talk about burning gender sterotypes:)

By: Donna Freedman

Donna Freedman — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 20:53:43 +0000

One commenter said he feels that his wife views "her time raising our child as far superior to my time (which I have to sacrifice to work this job) raising our child."
Your wife is sacrificing, too. When she wants to get back into the workplace she may face an uphill battle due to the time she spent out of it. (This, in turn, will affect her retirement.)
Raising children is an important job, but many days it is a thankless one as well. You wrote that you get home as late as 8 p.m. Her workday is never really over: If Junior hits another growth spurt and starts waking up for a bottle (or the breast) at 3 a.m. again after sleeping through the night for a while, she's back on the clock. Ditto the high fever at midnight (it always seems to happen late) or, later, the "I forgot -- I'm supposed to bring cupcakes tomorrow" at 9 p.m.
Yes, dads sometimes take care of such things. (Except maybe the breastfeeding.) But moms still tend to absorb more of these things, especially SAHMs -- in part because their partners have "worked all day" and need a break.
The corporate world is tough. I'm not discounting that at all. But if you're home with a small child your day begins whenever s/he wakes up and ends when you crash for the night. In between the hands-on dealings with the child you're expected to do the housework, shopping, the scheduling and keeping of appointments (doctor, dentist, play date), and any other errands such as getting the oil changed or picking up hubby's dry cleaning -- because, after all, what else do you have to do?
(I expect a whole lot of SAHMs and SAHDs are mighty sick of the phrase, "You're home all day anyway.")
If you want some down time you might be able to get it during naptime or while the child is engrossed in play that doesn't involve you -- but these breaks are liable to be interrupted at any moment, and we're talking blocks of time ranging from 20 minutes to maybe two hours, tops (and fewer of the latter as the kids get older and don't nap as long).
Oh, and don't forget the extra attention that your spouse wants when he gets home, tired from a long day. S/he wants Junior "scrubbed and tubbed, and adequately fed" (as the song goes) so s/he can have quality time before the child goes to sleep. Meanwhile, you've been on call for 12 to 15 hours nonstop and would love a little quality time, too -- time for yourself. But this is your only chance to have time with your spouse. So you're getting some dinner ready and thinking, "It's 8 p.m. and Junior goes to bed at 9. So if we eat and put the dishes in the dishwasher we'll have two or three hours together and I *might* be able to get seven hours of sleep if we're in bed by midnight."
People who think that at-home parents aren't sacrificing both in the short and long terms are fooling themselves.