Comments on: 12 Questions to Ask a Girl Before Marriage

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Fri, 09 Oct 2020 11:23:40 +0000

In reply to Steveark. Thanks for your comment Steveark. I love your list of hobbies. My husband and I started cooking together shortly after we were married and it's the best thing we've learned to do as a couple. Since COVID-19 struck we've been taking a lot more walks together too. At one point in our lives we went to the gym together too. You make a great point. You have to find ways to have fun as a couple, doing activities you both enjoy. Otherwise marriage can feel like a lot of work.

By: Steveark

Steveark — Wed, 07 Oct 2020 20:09:27 +0000

As someone still married to my best friend 42 years later, there is much good advice in this post. One thing we worked on before we married was finding some common hobbies. She took up tennis, I taught her to ski. We took up hiking. Later she became a talented angler, I learned to cook. We both took up pickleball. While we do all of these things with others we also do them as a couple. Common ground, especially on things that you enjoy, makes marriage fun. We were friends long before we dated and knew the answers to all of the questions because we had those conversations before we married.

By: The 'Staunch

The 'Staunch — Sun, 27 Sep 2020 23:15:53 +0000

This questions are very important indeed. I just met it at the right time of my married life. Thanks a lot for this guide

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Fri, 18 Sep 2020 20:32:33 +0000

In reply to She's FIRE'd. When I told my husband the idea behind this post he started laughing. He said, "Oh you are such a romantic." Then he said, "You are looking back at this through a different lens. If you knew all of these things up front you wouldn't have gotten married." It wouldn't have changed where we ended up, (we still would have gotten married), but it would have been nice to start our lives with a better glimpse of things to come. We actually read a 100 question book before we got married. Here is a link to a post I wrote about it in 2010 ;), but I can't remember what any of those questions were and I don't think any of them touched on these issues. You are both right though. You can answer the questions and still not know exactly where life will take you. You can also answer the questions and still get annoyed when you face them in real life ;) For all that we've been through I wouldn't change my decision to marry my husband.

By: She's FIRE'd

She's FIRE'd — Fri, 18 Sep 2020 20:13:18 +0000

I like the question “What are you willing to give up for a successful marriage?”. No one will have exactly the same goals as you do, and marriage requires compromise. This is all good advice, but I wonder how many people will be this objective when they’re in love. It certainly never occurred to me that my husband wasn’t going to want to travel for extended periods like I did. Marrying him meant giving up on that dream. It was worth it though.