Comments on: Self-Care Guilt: Why Do I Feel Guilty for Taking Care of Myself https://www.onefrugalgirl.com/self-care-guilt/ Earn, Save, and Live Joyfully. Sat, 01 Oct 2022 21:51:56 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.3 By: revanche @ a gai shan life https://www.onefrugalgirl.com/self-care-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-1117134 Sat, 26 Feb 2022 21:49:44 +0000 https://www.onefrugalgirl.com/?p=37353#comment-1117134 It’s strange how hard it is to be a caregiver who is at peace with caring for your own needs first. It would seem to be so logical, and it IS logical, until we need to apply the principle to our own lives.

I wonder how much of it is because we are socialized to offer the help but not ask for it?

I know I’m terrible at asking for help. But I’m very lucky in having a partner who takes the initiative and provides the moments of respite when possible (like right now, he’s taken the kids out so I can just be alone and rest for a few minutes). But those moments seem to be hard to come by unless we intentionally make space for them. And we should intentionally make space for them, regularly. I’m trying to, anyway.

]]> By: She's FIRE'd https://www.onefrugalgirl.com/self-care-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-1117124 Sat, 26 Feb 2022 12:51:47 +0000 https://www.onefrugalgirl.com/?p=37353#comment-1117124 Excellent post! I am not a good housekeeper. I’m just a messy person and struggle to keep my own space neat- and it’s even harder keeping up with a house with 4 other people in it. I felt guilty for years doing kind (or fun) things for myself when there were chores that weren’t done. But you know what? There are always unfinished chores.

I recently discovered Casey at Strugglecare on TikTok. What a life changing perspective she’s giving people. A mess is morally neutral. You are not a bad person because your laundry is not done. You deserve to rest no matter what your house looks like.

Awesome post- we need to hear (and believe) more of this!

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