Comments on: Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Tue, 16 Mar 2021 05:41:32 +0000

In reply to Shirley. Thank you for your comment. You are definitely not alone!

By: Shirley

Shirley — Mon, 08 Mar 2021 06:12:28 +0000

This really speaks to me. I, too, have constantly struggled with comparing myself with others (and finding myself falling short) especially in my younger years. I am, however, trying to discern and forge my own path now. I’m slowly gaining the confidence to pursue the things that i know to be impt. To me instead of the things/achievements that I “should” pursue. Thank you for sharing this. It validated my feelings and let me know that I’m not alone.

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Sat, 19 Sep 2020 03:21:49 +0000

In reply to Ashley Shelton. Thank you for your comment. It's actually kind-of funny that I coveted travel without realizing that I don't really enjoy it much myself. Now when I see friend's photographs I think "good for them" then I ask "do I want that for myself?"

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Sat, 19 Sep 2020 03:20:10 +0000

In reply to Carol. When this used to happen to me I tried to remind myself that "stuff" doesn't really matter. I have more money now that I used to and I suddenly want less than I've ever wanted before. When your friend tells you all that she has in material possessions ask yourself if you have 'more' in non-material ways.

By: Carol

Carol — Fri, 18 Sep 2020 17:21:49 +0000

A very old friend of mine constantly makes remarks about buying upscale and pricey clothing , bedding and home goods. I try not letting this get me down because I think “oh, I should buy that stuff too but I can’t afford it“. Then I think I don’t know how we’ve stayed friends for so long! Strange phenomenon!

By: Ashley Shelton

Ashley Shelton — Fri, 18 Sep 2020 14:32:52 +0000

Your comment about realizing you don’t really like to travel really struck a chord with me! I’ve always held traveling as a goal that means I’ve reached a level of financial independence. I’m always looking at travel bloggers on Instagram, etc., but every time I get home from a trip, I’m drained rather than invigorated. I think I need to rethink how I envision spending a successful retirement… Thank you for this!!

By: One Frugal Girl

One Frugal Girl — Sun, 06 Sep 2020 12:09:54 +0000

In reply to She's FIRE'd. I see the social media impacts in teenagers. When I was a kid I went home for the evening and had absolutely no idea what my friends were doing until I saw them the next day at school. Now the kids watch live updates on social media! It's so unhealthy. They think all their friends are happier and having more fun. I think these young kids are going to have a much higher hurdle to jump to get over the jealousy than I ever did. My heart breaks for them.

By: She's FIRE'd

She's FIRE'd — Fri, 04 Sep 2020 16:03:16 +0000

I think you’re right that comparison makes us unhappy about our own lives. I read a book about materialism and one of the interesting things it pointed out is that we have not become happier as a nation as our incomes have risen- we keep wanting more. The article pointed out that people used to live in neighborhoods where earnings were similar, and coveted things that were achievable on their income. Now, everyone compares themselves to Kim Kardashian. And everyone on TV is rich! Everyone!

Social media is the worst though. We tend to think that people’s lives are like their Facebook page. But nobody posts the bad stuff. Facebook is like a highlight reel, and it doesn’t contain stress, or meltdowns or marriage problems, or messes of any kind.

I’m getting better about avoiding comparison, but it’s so easy to do. I think it’s part of the human condition, but it’s worth trying to do less of it.