We toured at least four preschools in the area and what we found is a more expensive place doesn’t always mean it is a better place. And know that there may not be that perfect place near you. Our advice, go with your maternal instinct. At the end of the day, you are the only one who knows what you want and what you feel is best for your kid.

As long as you can afford it, price should really be secondary.

When my husband and I visited daycares, there were 2 that we just hated when we walked in the door — just “bad vibes” about the whole place. I couldn’t imagine sending my children to a place that I myself didn’t want to spend a lot a time at — and since your “dingy, bad vibe” place is the co-op, you will be there a lot.

I may be off base, but in my own experience, I sometimes feel pressure to make the most “earth-mama” like choice even if I really don’t like it (things like making my own baby food, using a Moby Wrap, etc…). Could you be feeling the same way about the co-op? Thinking that the co-op is supposed to be more wholesome/engaging/enriching and choosing it out of obligation to that “best mom in the world” ideal instead of doing what would actually work best for you, your husband, and your son.

Just my opinion that I didn’t explain very well at all!

There are a few unknowns with the traditional school (how the longer days will feel, how the lack of parental participation will feel, how you and your lovebug will handle the force separations), but there are unknowns in every situation…and these seem much more like “unknowns” than “cons”. Price is always a point to be argued, but you will probably get what you pay for and, conversely, you probably wouldn’t be happy justifying a less-than-great year of activities for your son by the cost savings.

The cons for the co-op, on the other hand, sound like actual cons. Less-than-great vibe, darker facilty, fewer field trips…and the big unknown about parent participation and how you will feel about your role at the school (and, potentially, about the other moms).

I would wager that there will be opportunities for you to get somewhat involved with parties and special events at the traditional school, and that you will meet other moms there through events and even just drop-offs.

Anyway, that’s my sort-of-unsolicited opinion and I’m sure you will make the best choice for your family!

I hope you are able to find one that meets your price needs and your parental peace of mind needs.