Anyway! I can totally sympathise with your spraying cat issue. My husband and I lived for 3 years with a cat who did the same thing. We even tried putting him on kitty Prozac.

It actually got to the point where my husband and I had fights that were a direct result of walking into the closet and finding our shoes or clothes covered in cat pee. Once we had our son was born, we decided we had to do something, and that three years of trying to make him happy was enough.

The idea of giving him to a shelter where he would probably be put down just wasn’t ok, and we couldn’t find any friends to take him. Eventually we found out that the Humane Society near us (in Washington state) would let us bring him there for adoption, specify the requirements (in our cat’s case, a house with no other pets and no children), and for a $50 fee, would call us if he wasn’t adopted and was in danger of being put down. The fee also covered calling us if he was adopted and then returned.

He was adopted out in about 4 days, and we haven’t heard anything since. That was about 2 years ago, so we assume all is well.

Anyway, you shouldn’t have to be miserable, living with an unhappy cat, so perhaps you can find a shelter in your area which offers a similar service.