Comments on: To Register or Not to Register

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 04:19:48 +0000

Our friends loved using our honeymoon registry – as they gave us fun activities as gifts (that they knew we wouldn't normally splurge on!). We used honeymoonpixie.com – very classy registry and personal service. My older relatives tended to use our wedding registry to buy house stuff that we had registered. So it's a good idea to have both 🙂

By: One Infertile Girl

One Infertile Girl — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 02:55:16 +0000

@anonymous - I mentioned this to a few other people and they said the exact same thing!

@newlyweds - I actually looked into the various honeymoon registries for the bride, but a lot of them look like they take a cut of the money.

@sense - a friend mentioned that Marriott hotels and other big chains will let you register for things like dinner, spa treatments, etc. I like that idea too!

@we four less - i also recommended at least one small registry for those people that would feel most comfortable buying that way. a lot of folks in the older generation would prefer this approach.

@makky's mom - i guess the expectation of any registry is a bit tacky. after all you invite guests to celebrate the occasion with you, not because you expect them to buy you something.

@spaghetti - i think it boils down to knowing the dollar amount someone spent on you. if you can buy a discounted gift card for $50 that's worth $100 then the bride and groom don't need to be any the wiser. when you give them cash they know exactly what you spent on them.

@leslie - i love the idea of registering at amazon. there is so much to chose from.

@kelly - i tend to agree with you that a registry is a registry. whether you are asking for dishes or asking for a honeymoon you are in essence asking your guests for gifts. what difference does it really make what's on the list?

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 19:00:38 +0000

not at all. i don't see how a honeymoon registry is any different than a registry for dishes. they are all just options to make the gifting less stressful for guests. we're using depositagift.com for ours and we love it. we registered for our honeymoon to thailand and some new 'grown up' furniture 🙂 guests thought it was so fun and much more practical!

By: Leslie

Leslie — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 16:11:04 +0000

We faced a similar situation, and decided to register at Amazon.com. They have pretty much EVERYTHING so we registered for books and other non-traditional items. It allowed the people who wanted to give gifts that option. We did push for cash though, and 85% of what we got was cash.

By: spaghetti0625

spaghetti0625 — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 14:36:33 +0000

I agree that asking for cash to a wedding is tacky. Some people don't have means to give cash and get upset at this b/c ppl will know how much you gave them. When money's tight, there's many other options you can do (getting a gift using coupons, restaurant.com gift card, homemade items, items from your stockpile that you get for a wedding or shower purpose, etc.). Especially in THIS economy, asking for cash is tacky. I also agree with the fellow poster that tradition and etiquette is going out the window, which I find sad.

If they are planning on a honeymoon, can't they still do a registry? Maybe for a new swimsuit, flip flops, or something? I don't know. Granted, I know they have pretty much everything they need in the new house, but flat out asking for cash is tacky.

Although I wouldn't go empty handed (that too is tacky), I'd maybe give some cash, but not a lot. Or maybe even get a card and put a restaurant.com gift cert in there (using a code of course!) and leaving a little note that you can't afford to give cash, but spending $2 or $4 for a gift card valued at $25 or $50 is bang for your buck!

By: Makky's Mom

Makky's Mom — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 17:34:32 +0000

I prefer to give money. I want my gift used for EXACTLY what the bride and groom want it to be used for... if that's their honeymood, then who am I to question that!

I didn't register for wedding gifts. I personally think it's presumptuous to "assume" that your guests even WANT to give you a gift. Of course, 99% of wedding guests WILL give a gift or cash, but to pre-register for gifts seems tacky to me.

Asking for money also seems tacky. I would just not register anywhere. If guests WANT to give a gift, they will inquire about what is desired by the couple, otherwise they will give cash... or possibly a combination of the two.

By: we four lees

we four lees — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 13:19:45 +0000

I'm kind of old fashioned, but I think asking for cash is tacky. She should register for her trip with a travel agent (or at least designate a friend to be a "travel liaison") and have people make donations to that person. She should also register at one other place. It wouldn't have to be a big registry, but at least her guests would feel like they have options.

By: Sense

Sense — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 07:30:23 +0000

i think it is a very cute idea to register for honeymoon activities!

it makes no sense: i don't like the idea of just giving people cash for a wedding--but i wouldn't mind if they created a registry at a place that allowed refunds (BB&B?) and just took my gift back and exchanged it for money.

By: Newlyweds on a Budget

Newlyweds on a Budget — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 05:15:58 +0000

I think nowadays there is so little left of "tradition" that I would think it would make sense to donate to a honeymoon fund. a blogger I read (Once Upon a Lime) actually just created a honeymoon registry and I thought it was a very cute idea!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 04:55:26 +0000

I would rather give a gift, not money. If there was something on an invitation stating that they didn't want gifts and only money, I think I would just skip the gift/money all together.