Second Child? What to Keep? What to Donate?

November 14, 2012 at 12:10 PM 3 comments

I’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately by the sheer amount of stuff in our house. This always seems to happen to me this time of year. The weather is cold, we spend a lot more time indoors and I know that with the holiday season upon us the number of possessions in our home will soon increase dramatically.

I ventured into the haven for plastic containers, otherwise known as my basement, to dig through what he currently own and what we no longer need. Among the boxes I found clothes, equipment and toys that my son has outgrown as well as toys, clothes and equipment he hasn’t grown into yet. My brother provided us with box after box of toys that he might not use for the next two, three or even four years. I hate to get rid of these items, because I know my son will enjoy them one day, but for now they take up a tremendous amount of space in the basement.

I’m not sure what to do about all of this stuff. It seems silly to hold on to a bunch of baby clothes that our son has outgrown. If we do have another child we don’t know if it will be another boy and we don’t know if he or she will born at the same time of year or be the same size as our first. Our son wore a lot of warm weather items between 3 and 6 months. What if the next child needs short sleeved summer clothes during that same time frame?

Also, I’m not sure how many of the older toys I should hold onto either. Does it make sense to keep boxes of toys in our basement for three to four years while I wait for my son to grow into them?

I don’t want to waste the money and have to buy everything all over again but I also don’t want to keep moving boxes around and juggling containers of stuff we aren’t using on a regular basis. This is a particularly good time of year to donate items to children who may be in need. Why keep all of this stuff in boxes waiting for some day when another child could use them right away?

I’m sure there are a lot of parents out there who can weigh in on this topic. Did you keep a lot of your baby’s clothes, toys and equipment or did you decide to donate what you had on hand and buy new if and when the time came?

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  • 1. Heather Mercer  |  November 14, 2012 at 1:41 PM

    It’s hard to decide. I kept everything, all my friends were having kids and I hoped to be pregnant within 2 years of having my son. My sister had a little boy when my son turned 2, they were perfectly on the same seasons. All clothes and toys were handed down to her. Once my son turned 3 and I wasn’t pregnant yet, I started going through things. I tried to sell some stuff and donated others. It was really just the things I decided I didn’t really like the first time around or wouldn’t be useful when there were 2 kids. I found out I was pregnant in September and due 2 days after my son’s 4th birthday. Talk about timing, everything I saved could be used again! Unfortunately, I lost that pregnancy a few weeks ago. I started going through things again this week; kinda my way of dealing with the miscarriage and I’m finding even more I’m willing to part with. I was going to comment on your previous post about when you know you’re ready for #2, you’re never ready and it’s not guaranteed it will happen right away. I wish you the best.

    • 2. One Frugal Girl  |  November 15, 2012 at 10:25 PM

      Thank you for your comment. I am sorry for your loss. I had a chemical pregnancy the month before I conceived my son and although I wasn’t pregnant for long I still took time to mourn. I can totally understand weaning things as a means to help cope with your loss. I attempted to create a donation pile yesterday but I am having an unbelievably difficult time parting with his things. I didn’t imagine that would be the case and I am surprised by how dearly I want to hold on to his tiny sleepers and other adorable baby things. As I mentioned it took us awhile to conceive number one so I know for certain that number two could take awhile and as with everything in life is never guaranteed. I wish you all the best as well.

  • […] week I decided to take a stab at the plastic containers full of baby clothes and toys in my basement. My original intention was to donate most of my son’s stuff to a local charity. Although […]


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