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Consignment a Good Deal? (Trip #2)

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I recently carved out a small space in the corner of my closet where I can stack three plastic boxes. The baby is growing like crazy so every time I find he’s outgrown another article of clothing I assess its ability to sell. If it has any value I throw it in the sale bin otherwise it lands in the donation pile.

Once I gather $100 worth of stuff and/or large baby equipment that takes up a good deal of floor space I know it’s time to take another trip to the store.

This week I consigned the following items:

  • 2 Gymboree blankets
  • 1 Gymboree jumper
  • 2 First Impressions Outfits (w/ jacket & pants)
  • 2 Dr Browns glass bottles
  • 2 boxes of milk storage bags (new)
  • 1 Avent bottle (new)
  • 2 Carters size 5 sleepers (new)
  • 1 Organic sleep bag (new)
  • 1 Rock and Play Sleeper
  • 1 Breastfriend nursing pillow
  • 1 Boppy nursing cover
  • 1 cotton sleep sack
  • 1 travel-sized box of Hape blocks
  • 1 Polo sweater
  • 1 outfit (onesie, sweatshirt & pants – new)
  • 1 Gymboree sweatshirt (new)
  • 1 Kids game

Last time the store processed my items quite quickly. Unfortunately, this time I came in just behind someone with loads of boxes. I waited roughly thirty-five minutes before they began processing my stuff.

If the store were closer to my house I would have dropped everything and gone home, but it’s not exactly around the corner so instead I walked around taking note of the brands they sell and their prices.

I bring in stuff that looks like new, but I saw quite a few items on the rack that were quite worn. I am happy to donate, but I do believe I could sell a lot more stuff of lower quality there.

I never receive an itemized list of prices for my goods and until I left the store I never considered asking how much they paid for each item. When they call my name they simply provide two offers and ask which one I prefer.

I was offered $53 in cash or $63.50 in store credit. I took the cash, because my youngest is primarily wearing hand-me-downs and there appears to be no need to buy him new clothes until fall. When I got home I compared each item sold to the suggested consignment sale price. When I added them all together the total earned appeared to be roughly 50% of the overall value.

Next time a consignment sale rolls into town I plan to check out the prices. A reader suggested my previous list was worth more than $100. Perhaps I am low-balling my expectations, but without experience with consignment sales it’s tough to say.

On a side note: I was tempted to purchase a toy or two for my oldest, but remembered the goal is to clean out the house, not fill it up with more stuff we really don’t need. I also found that the price of the used toys were only a dollar or two cheaper than buying new ones directly from Amazon. So I’m not missing out on a great deal if I decide to wait and add them to my son’s birthday or Christmas list.

August 5, 2015 at 12:34 PM Leave a comment

Pampers Premium Care Review

Wearing Pampers

Before my first son was born, (sometime around the beginning of my third trimester), I read a blog post about stockpiling diapers. It sounded like such a great idea, of course I wanted to save money on diapers and what better way to save then by taking advantage of promotional sales? I was already making a weekly trip to stores to stock up on household items for free or nearly free, so why not add diapers to the list of items I bought there?

There are all sorts of websites that provide estimates for the number of diapers you might need in the first year of your child’s life.

If you search the Internet you’ll find a ton of diaper approximations that look similar to the list below:

  • Newborn: 6 packs (approx. 216 diapers)
  • Size 1: 4 packs (approx. 160 diapers)
  • Size 2: 16 packs (approx. 640 diapers)
  • Size 3: 19 packs (approx. 684 diapers)

I had no idea if these numbers were accurate, but I wanted to buy at least a few packs in advance of our first little bundle of joy.  I skipped the newborn sizes, (all ultrasounds estimated my baby would be quite large), and skipped ahead to size 1 and 2. I didn’t go crazy, but I did amass a small mound of packages.

I bought the cheapest diapers I could find through a combination of sales and coupons and built a tiny stockpile in various sizes. I proudly stacked them in the closet feeling quite accomplished with all the money I saved.

Or so I thought…

Unfortunately those stockpiling efforts were a complete waste of time. Despite all of my best efforts my son consistently leaked while wearing the diapers I purchased.

After a few nights of consistently waking up wet, and thereby preventing me from any chance of restful slumber, I gave up on that brand of diapers. I gave them all away for free and promptly replaced them with Pampers. Wouldn’t you know my son didn’t suffer a single leak after switching brands.

I am now a loyal Pampers fan. I’ve tried a few other brands, (received as hand-me-downs and free samples), but none of them were as soft and absorbent.

Pampers isn’t always the cheapest brand, but with coupons and sales I consistently find great prices in drugstores, Walmart and through Amazon Mom. The quality and peace of mind I get make them worth every penny.

When SheSpeaks presented me with the opportunity to participate in the Pampers #MothersPromise program I could not hit the Enroll Now button fast enough!

Pampers Box

Pampers just released a new type of diapers called Pampers Premium Care, which contains the following features:

  • Absorb Away Liner: Pulls wetness and mess away from baby’s skin
  • Breathable Material: To keep air circulating around baby’s skin
  • Extra Absorb Channels: Helps distribute wetness evenly for up to 12 hours of protection
  • Hypoallergenic
  • Wetness Indicator: Lets you know when your baby might need a change
  • Available for purchase at Walmart later this month

Pampers Features

SheSpeaks and Walmart provided me with a box of size 3 diapers to try on my youngest son.

The first thing I noticed about Pampers Premium Care diapers is just how soft the material feels. The texture is silky and smooth not stiff and hard like many similar brands. I’m honestly shocked by the softness. It feels a lot like a fluffy cotton ball.

The material seems to be just as absorbent as any other Pampers we’ve tried. The absorb away liner and extra absorb channels kept my son dry throughout the day and night without any leaks or blow outs.

Premium Care diapers also contain the patented wetness indicator that is ultra helpful for new parents. As a new parent it is often difficult to determine whether or not your baby needs to be changed. Thanks to the wetness indicator you don’t need to guess. You simply look at the yellow stripe down the center of the diaper. If it turns blue you know it’s time to change the baby. This is also helpful when grandparents and other family members babysit. If they aren’t sure if the baby is wet tell them to look for the blue line.

From a purely aesthetic standpoint I think the baby animal designs are absolutely adorable. The package I received contained lots of pastel colored tigers, hippos and elephants in the top center of each diaper, which match our nursery’s jungle theme.

And although neither of my boys struggle with allergic reactions it’s still nice to know the diaper is hypoallergenic. If your little one tends to break out from disposable diapers this may be the brand to try.

These diapers did seem slightly larger than the Pampers Swaddlers my youngest son currently wears. Although the weight range is the same for both packs of diapers there appeared to be more wiggle room between the Premium Care elastic around his legs. You actually get more diapers in the smaller packs. Size 1 contains more diapers than size 2, size 2 more than size 3, etc. So if they do run slightly larger that would be a minor money saving advantage as your child can wear the smaller size for a longer period of time.

I cannot say enough good things about the Pampers brand. In addition to the package of diapers I received a Pampers memento box and book. Inside was a note that read:

Every day with your baby is like a new page in your story together, so use this book to write those promises and keep your memories of every special moment.

Motherhood does feel like one long story just waiting to be told. What will happen along the way? How will our relationship strengthen? Who will my child become? I keep journals for both of my boys and I couldn’t agree more.

It was a true honor to participate in this program. I am a HUGE fan of Pampers. Their leak protection is unlike any other brand we’ve tried and we use their diapers and training pants exclusively.

On a side note: I couldn’t write about Pampers without mentioning their rewards program. If you use Pampers or plan to use them in the future sign up for the Pampers Rewards Program. Each package of diapers contains a code that can easily be entered on the website or through the Pampers Rewards app on your iPhone. It takes mere seconds to enter and you can earn rewards ranging from free photo prints and photo calendars to toy shopping carts, scooters and JCPenney gift cards. I’ve earned hundreds of dollars worth of products in the last three and a half years.

Note: This is a sponsored post for SheSpeaks/Pampers.

July 26, 2015 at 8:00 AM Leave a comment

Consignment – The Second Time Around

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At only four months of age my little bruiser is already wearing 12-to-18 month clothing. We received a bunch of baby onesies and sleepers shortly after my son was born, but with his long torso and meaty thighs he has already outgrown all of them! I didn’t expect any gifts for our second born child and I am more than grateful for the generosity of friends and family. I gave away the majority of infant clothes long before number two arrived.

Our bassinet has been collecting dust ever since I decided to ditch it in favor of co-sleeping and the mobile above my son’s crib seems to keep him wide-awake rather than helping him reach any state of slumber.

Since this is most likely our last child, (it took us two and a half years to conceive two children), I see no need in keeping infant clothing or baby equipment around. This week I gathered two large bins of unwanted clothing and trucked them off for consignment.

I considered waiting for the consignment sale this October, but then promptly decided against it for two main reasons. Fist, I didn’t want the stuff in the house any longer. Second, I didn’t want to do more than necessary to get rid of this stuff.

As a consignor I would only earn 55% of the sale price of each item, plus pay a $10 fee. Not to mention the work involved in hanging, tagging, cataloging and delivering items. It just didn’t seem worth the extra effort.

The local consignment store provides cash up front, which probably means I earn less than comparable stores, but on the plus side I don’t have to wait for a check. I dropped off my stuff and waited for the store owner to pick over everything.

I didn’t catalog everything I dropped off, but here is a list of most of the stuff:

  • 2 sleepers with hats and booties
  • 2 packs of Carter’s onesies (6 in a pack)
  • 2 packs of mitts
  • 2 Carter’s open bottom sleepers
  • 5 onesies
  • 2 Old navy maternity dresses
  • 1 Old navy maternity shirt
  • 1 belly band
  • 2 pairs of maternity pants
  • 1 maternity sweater
  • 1 fleece sleeper
  • 2 Gymboree outfits (shirt and pants)
  • 4 baby hats
  • 5 Carter’s outfits (1 long sleeved onesie, one short sleeved onesie & pants)
  • 1 Carter’s security blanket
  • 2 packages of baby socks
  • 1 Gymboree boy’s sweater
  • 1 Polo baby sweater
  • 1 boy’s winter coat
  • 1 Gymboree winter coat
  • 5 long sleeved Gymboree onesies
  • 1 Baby Bjorn
  • 1 Co-sleeper

Thirty minutes later I was offered $106.71 in cash or $125 in store credit. I took the cash option.

I looked up the pricing guidelines for the consignment sale and I’m fairly certain I wouldn’t have made much more selling there. I could have earned more selling the co-sleeper through craigslist, but I feel good enough about the end result.

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July 15, 2015 at 9:45 PM 8 comments

Best Baby Gear: A Few of My Favorite Things

Before my first son was born I read just about every must-have baby checklist out there. I bought the required number of crib sheets and made certain I had swaddling blankets and burp cloths on hand from day one.

Along the way I discovered that a lot of items were completely unnecessary while others seemed vital in those first few months.

Here are a few of my favorite newborn and infant related products. These were the first things I pulled out of storage the second time around.

cosleeper

The co-sleeper. My first son slept in our bedroom until he was six months old. The first few months we attached the co-sleeper to the side of our bed where he was within arms reach next to me, but not actually laying on the mattress beside me. This was the best thing for nighttime feedings. I’d lean over, grab him, pull him into bed with me, swaddle him when he was finished eating and lay him back in the co-sleeper. This is larger than the typical bassinet so your baby can typically sleep in it until he really needs a full sized crib. It has wheels on two sides so you can also roll it out of the way in the morning.

blankets

There are a ton of different swaddling blankets on the market, but most simply aren’t large enough to provide a tight swaddle. I make tall children and most blankets don’t seem to fit their 21 inch bodies. Their feet tend to poke out the bottom or they manage to wiggle their hands free. Aden + Anais blankets are wide, long and lightweight enough to swaddle a baby comfortably. They are more expensive then other brands but worth their weight in gold. My babies prefer a tight swaddle and if the blanket doesn’t fit properly I guarantee they’ll find a way to slip out of it. In my experience an unswaddled baby is typically an unhappy one.

sleeping gownIn the middle of the night when I am utterly exhausted and half asleep I do not want to fumble around in the dark with buttons and zippers. Sleeping gowns are the best trick for quick changes. You simply lift the bottom of the nightgown, pull off the dirty diaper, wipe, place a new diaper on and pull the gown back down. I don’t know of any other item on the market that requires less work.

bamboobiesIf you plan to breastfeed invest in a few pairs of reusable nursing pads. I prefer Bamboobies, which come in two varieties; a thin version for daytime and an ultra-thick version for nighttime wear. These are so much softer than disposable pads and they can be thrown directly into the washing machine and reused over and over again. I cannot say enough good things about these. They are my number one baby shower gift for breastfeeding moms!

Nursing Top

Another breastfeeding favorite of mine are pull-down nursing tops. A lot of tank tops have snaps at the top that can be unsnapped during feeding and snapped back up when finished. I’ve never found these to be particularly comfortable. I like the soft cotton shirts that can simply be stretched down past the breast and then pulled back up. I bought six pull-down nursing shirts and wear them exclusively. I throw a button down shirt or sweatshirt over top of them and simply pull them down whenever the need to nurse arises. The cotton is incredibly soft and comfortable.

highchairI registered for this high chair before my son was born, but I had no idea how much I would love using it. Unlike most high chairs that can only be used when your baby begins to sit up, this one can be used very early on. You can recline the seat for very young babies who cannot hold their heads up. Your baby can sit at the table at meal time even though he or she isn’t actually eating yet. When my son was little we’d put him in the high chair so he could see us and watch us converse at dinner time. It freed our hands to eat dinner, but made us feel like our little guy was already becoming a part of the meal time routine. I like that he sat eye-to-eye with us, rather than putting him in a swing or other contraption, which typically sits low to the floor. Of course, this also grows with your child. My son sat in this chair until he turned eighteen months.

carrierIf you plan to run a lot of errands with your child a baby carrier is definitely worth the money. It’s easier to strap a baby to your chest and walk through the grocery store then it is to drag that awful car seat wherever you go. Car seats are heavy and awkward, not to mention I could never fit groceries in the cart once I placed the seat in there. With two kids the carrier has become a vital piece of baby gear. I strap the baby onto my chest and my arms are still free to help my three year old.

bouncy seatI don’t use baby equipment on an every day basis. I’m not a huge fan of placing babies in swings or other contraptions for long periods of time, but both of my children love the Fisher Price bouncy seat. The seat is soft and although it is reclined the baby is sitting quite upright. From this angle they can look around the room and watch the activity of everyone in the household. This also helps in those early months when rumbling bellies and gas may be an issue. The upright position seems to make digestion easier for our little tikes.

It’s funny how many things I thought I needed in the first six months and how few things I actually ended up using. Did you have any go-to products that made your life as a parent easier in those first few months? Is there anything you bought that turned out to be a complete waste of money?

April 4, 2015 at 10:19 AM 3 comments

Extending the Love

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I was hesitant to have a shower for baby #2, but oh so happy my family decided to host a sprinkle despite my reservations. Other than one former coworker the attendees were all family members and extremely close friends. All the people I love so dearly.

I didn’t see the invitation but I was told it stated no gifts. That’s good because the goal was not to fill our house with baby stuff, but rather to celebrate the long awaited birth of our second child. I suppose the verbiage didn’t matter much because everyone brought a small present anyway.

Since this is our second child I didn’t expect to receive any gifts, but I have been inundated by love and good wishes. After the shower we received packages from twelve additional gift givers; including a giant box of baby clothes. It seems a new box arrived on our front steps every afternoon for ten straight days. We also received three meals and two bags full of tasty snacks that I spent the last three weeks munching on.

Every afternoon I sat down to write detailed thank you notes, (I am a stickler for saying thank you quickly and sincerely), and every time I thought I was finished writing notes another gift arrived.

We are truly blessed by the generosity of those we know. Our blessings come from friends, neighbors, distant family members, former coworkers, my husband’s current coworkers and friends of the family. My heart is truly warmed by the love that has been extended to the new member of our family.

April 1, 2015 at 11:12 AM 1 comment

Radio Silence: Baby #2 Arrives

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Baby #2 arrived a bit earlier than expected; three weeks early to be exact. I thought I had one more week to prepare for the arrival, but it simply wasn’t meant to be. As I labored in the hospital my husband and I walked the halls and tried to agree on names.

In fact, up until an hour or two before delivery we were still hashing out ideas and going back and forth about our favorites. We settled on a name for a boy relatively quickly, but since we didn’t know the gender we continued to discuss girls names until my labor became too intense to think about anything other than giving birth.

It seems all that talk of girl names was irrelevant. Our baby boy arrived in the wee hours of the morning. Despite his early arrival he appears to be robust and strong.

Big brother was convinced this little guy was going to be a sister, but didn’t seem terribly disappointed when we told him a little brother had arrived instead. So far everything is going quite smoothly. Well as smoothly as life with a newborn can go.

There may be a bit of radio silence while we adjust to life as a family of four.

March 15, 2015 at 2:43 PM 6 comments

A Guide to Saving for Maternity Leave

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This post is part of Women’s Money Week.

In my opinion as soon you decide to have children, (no matter how far into the future that day may seem), you should start setting money aside for the big day. Think of having a child like any other big financial goal in life. You know you need to save to buy a house, a new car or to travel on an exotic vacation, so why not save to expand your family?

The sooner you decide to save the larger that sum will swell. If you don’t earn a lot of money set aside a little bit each paycheck. You’d be surprised how quickly those numbers can add up over time. Set a big goal for yourself. Imagine you don’t know where you’ll work a few years from this point in time and whether or not maternity pay will be offered. You are married and want a family but you aren’t certain when. Start a savings account dedicated to financing your maternity leave.

In general cut back on your spending, clip coupons and stay out of stores. Calculate all of your monthly expenses and see what items you might be able to eliminate. Start making calls to cell phone companies and satellite TV providers to find out how to reduce monthly bills. Think about possible ways to earn extra income by taking on extra hours at work or selling unwanted items on eBay.

Once you conceive keep your ear out for anyone willing to offer hand-me-downs and investigate all the places that sell second-hand baby items. You would be amazed by the number of people who have boxes full of baby related items hiding in their basements. If you live in or near a major city you will probably find second-hand stores and consignment sales that sell items for a fraction of the retail price. Consignment sales are typically held just three or four times a year, so make certain to mark the dates on your calendar. If you are looking for something specific try eBay and Craigslist before buying from an online retailer.

Think carefully about how you register for baby items and avoid letting yourself get into the baby craze. You’ll feel driven to wash everything the minute you receive it, but don’t. Keep tags on just about everything. It’s amazing how quickly children outgrow toys and clothing. Rather than washing everything and folding it neatly into drawers keep the tags on clothes until just before your child will need to wear them. This makes it easier to return or exchange the items for larger sizes. It also makes it easier to sell items if the need arises.

Kids don’t need much in that first year of life other than love and attention, so stick to a very small set of toys. You’ll be amazed at how enamored your child will become with a simple cardboard box or a plastic bucket.

Think strategically about decorating your nursery. Baby stores have notoriously high prices, so make certain to compare prices at traditional furniture stores before buying. Also, try to envision your child’s bedroom five or ten years into the future. You don’t want to purchase all new furniture when your son or daughter gets older.

I mentioned this in the post linked to above, but I think it bears repeating here; keep in mind that some baby sized gear is cute, but certainly not necessary. Full sized towels work better than the hooded versions and extra soft wash cloths will work perfectly fine for a baby. They may not have super cute motifs on them, but they will last long beyond the first year or two.

Before getting pregnant or at the very least as soon as you find out you are pregnant talk to your human resources department and ask for detailed benefit information. You want to know how long you will be paid and what percentage of pay you will receive. Some women get paid 100% for weeks on end, some receive partial pay and others get nothing at all.

I’ve known at least two women who returned to work much earlier than expected because they didn’t understand their benefits. A friend of the family planned to stay home for three months, but found out her pay ran out after just eight weeks. She was informed on a Friday and unexpectedly back at work the following Monday. Had she realized this sooner she could have saved more money to stay home for that period of time or at least better prepared herself for a shorter leave. Instead she felt forced to return to work and unhappy about doing so.

Make certain to ask your employer if you can use sick leave and/or vacation time to pay for your maternity leave and if you can transition back to work with reduced hours or a more flexible work schedule.

Most importantly plan as much as you can before the arrival of your new little bundle of joy. The sooner you plan and the harder you save the easier the transition to parenthood will be.

March 5, 2015 at 6:40 PM 1 comment

Maternity Leave – How Much Is Enough?

This post is part of Women’s Money Week.

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Planning for maternity leave sucks. When I found out I was expecting my first child I sat down with a calendar and mapped out the days and weeks until I would need to return to work.

My son was due in late October and I ran all sorts of calculations to determine the maximum amount of time I could spend at home. Since my vacation hours reset in the new year I wondered if I could take STD, a week or two of vacation, then maternity leave and take another two or three weeks of vacation after that.

No matter how many times I stared at that calendar I could not figure out a way to extend the time beyond ten weeks. I knew I was lucky to get that much paid time off, but the idea of returning to work after less than three months made me feel incredibly sick.

I had every intention of returning to my job after my son was born. My tasks weren’t particularly difficult. I earned a six figure salary and worked from home a few days a week. Who wouldn’t go back to that?

But as fate would have it I never returned. I suffered the consequences of a large company-wide restructuring effort. One day I walked into work and was told my position was no longer needed. After twelve years with the company that was the end of that.

My lay off was a blessing in disguise. I no longer needed to feel torn about staying home versus returning to work. My company didn’t provide maternity leave, but they did pay me in the form of a six month severance check.

I lined up a job that was set to begin when my son turned six months, but as the months came and went I still didn’t feel ready to return to my old cubicle life.

As the due date for my second child approaches I think a lot about the circumstances that brought me to where I am today. I completely understand why employers can’t retain a new mom’s position indefinitely. I also understand the turmoil and inner struggle of women who just want a little more time with their babies.

March 4, 2015 at 4:21 PM 2 comments

Ugh

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Over the past three and a half years I’ve gotten rid of a lot of baby items. I kept quite a few of my son’s favorite toys, super cute clothing and big ticket items like bouncy seats and highchairs, but a lot of other things were passed on to others. I thought we might have another child, but I didn’t want to keep everything around forever.

I did keep my son’s activity mat. You know those little rainbow shaped contraptions that hold toys your infant can attempt to kick and grasp. I can’t remember exactly who bought it for us, but I received it as a gift at my baby shower. It was priced around $75 when I received it, so it seemed like something I store for the future. As soon as my son outgrew the need to use it I wrapped it in plastic wrap and stored it in an upstairs closet. It remained in that closet, (safely stored), for years.

When my nesting craze began I dug through the closets and gathered as much of the baby related stuff as I could find. When the remodeling project began I decided to corral everything into one place and settled on a small corner of our sun room. There you can now find my son’s old shoes, baby clothes, infant to toddler toys and one or two pieces of baby equipment still wrapped in plastic wrap.

A few weeks ago after work finished on our basement we moved our cat’s sleeping quarters into that sun room. He’s the type of cat that roams around from room to room so every evening I place him ever so gently into his little bed, shut the door and wish him goodnight.

One morning I noticed some torn plastic resting on the floor in the sun room. I figured the cat may have gotten restless and torn a few pieces off. It was clear he hadn’t eaten the plastic so I wasn’t worried that he would get sick and it was such a tiny amount that I simply picked it up, threw it away and forgot about it.

This morning I noticed a HUGE pile of plastic resting on the floor. Not only had the cat ripped nearly all of the plastic off of the activity mat he had actually torn the mat itself. White tufts of cotton batting were scattered across the floor. The fabric itself is also filled with large teeth and claw marks.

This is not the end of the world. As far as I can tell the fabric slits will still hold the arcs in place and odds are I can place a blanket on top of the mat so a baby can still lay safely on there. Despite knowing much worse problems could exist in this world it is one of those kick-yourself-in-the-pants type moments. After two to three years of holding on to something my cat attempted to destroy it in a matter of minutes.

I’ve written many times about the decision to lend or sell versus keep. It took my husband and I awhile to conceive and I think deep down I worried that getting rid of my son’s outgrown belongings was a sign that I didn’t want any more children. I realize that sounds insane, but in some crazy superstitious way it made perfect sense to me at the time.

Now as I look at the torn and tattered baby equipment scattered across my sun room I wonder if I should have sold these items as soon as my son outgrew them. ugh.

February 27, 2015 at 4:17 PM 2 comments

A Shower for Baby #2?

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This morning my husband called and said, “is it okay if my mom doesn’t throw you a sprinkle?” A sprinkle is apparently a baby shower for a second/third/subsequent child. My mother-in-law offered to host a party for us and asked my husband for a list of details including possible dates and a list of people we’d like to invite.

My husband, (feeling overwhelmed by a million other things going on with his business, job and home renovations), thanked his mother for the offer, but told her it really wasn’t a great time for us to plan a party.

I appreciated the gesture and was surprisingly torn about my husband’s idea to forgo it. First, let me say I didn’t expect anyone to throw a shower for me.

Other than a few miscellaneous items we have everything we need for this child, so I certainly don’t need a big bash and a room full of gifts. My guest list would change a lot from the last shower too. It would only include extremely close friends and family members. Last time a few extended family members and coworkers were invited.

To be honest I was initially against the idea of a second shower. A few moms told me second showers are held when the second child is a different gender than the first. In my case we didn’t know the gender of my first child before he was born and we don’t know the gender of this one either. That means I have a whole lot of yellow and green gear and baby outfits that can be handed down to baby number two. It also means we can’t have a party with “it’s a boy” or “it’s a girl” banners streaming from the windows.

So if I don’t need gifts, don’t like to be the center of attention, don’t know the gender and didn’t plan on anyone offering to host a shower why did I feel so torn about not having one? The answer is surprisingly simple: I remembered how warm and fuzzy I felt during the shower that was held for my son.

In my pregnancy journal I wrote:

This Saturday my friends and family threw a baby shower for me, well actually for you, little one. And while you are still weeks away from your expected arrival the outpouring of love for you was absolutely amazing.

The women in my life come from various backgrounds and they all have different goals in life. Each one is amazing in her own way. I can only hope that when you grow up you are blessed and surrounded by such loving relationships in your own life. Of course, you’ll be loved and adored by your dad and I and all of our families, (that goes without saying), but I hope you come to find love and companionship from the friends that will become your extended family.

On Saturday the room was filled with a group of women who came out to celebrate you. Some women who couldn’t attend sent cards and gifts so they wouldn’t miss out on the festivities and when all was said and done I hand wrote twenty-seven thank you cards that corresponded to so many gifts we had to transport them in two separate cars.

It amazes me to think that you aren’t even here yet and there is already a pocket of love blooming around you!

I suppose I wanted to feel that kind of love for this baby even though he or she isn’t here yet.
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January 29, 2015 at 10:00 AM 9 comments

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