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Contemplating the Stay At Home Option

As time passes I am more and more thankful and grateful for the opportunity to spend each and every day with my newborn son. If it had not been for the large layoffs at my former company I would be expected to return to work this week. Thankfully the fates aligned and rather than returning to an unfulfilling job I am currently staying home and enjoying the moments that make up my young son’s life. 

I already have a new job lined up, but as the days pass I’m not certain that I’ll be able to return to the work. My son means the world to me and if my husband and I can manage life on one income I think I would like to stay home with him for at least the first year. Of course, I realize that the first year may become the first few years, especially if we have another child at any point along the way. Let’s face it a part of me knows that a year will easily turn into four or five.
 
I don’t know too many women who have made the switch to stay-at-home mom. Most of my peers return to work a few weeks or months after their children are born. Some do it because they like their jobs and some do it because they feel they have no other choice.
 
Although I have not always admitted it, even to myself, I have always wanted children. I worked in daycare for years and cried for a full week when I left that job to head off to college. After three years in the same center, those children were a part of me and I grew to love many of them as if they were my own.
 
Now that I have my own child I’m not certain that I can drop him off in someone else’s care. Being on the other side of the fence I watched many mothers cry as they waved goodbye to their little ones each morning. Over the next week or so I hope to post about my thoughts, feelings and financial factors in this matter. I need to make a decision on this within the next two months so I really need to stop avoiding the topic and search for an answer.

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One Frugal Girl

Saturday 14th of January 2012

@lauren - A flexible schedule would be ideal. It sounds like you have the best of both worlds.

@cellomom - I've been saying the same thing ever since I was let go! Had my employer not laid me off I would've returned to work after 10 weeks. Since they did I get a chance to step back and weigh my options.

@Jane - I think it's great that you and your husband are trying to live off of one salary. I wish my husband and I had been more aggressive about that in the past. Although we saved a lot of money I know we could have done a lot better!

Jane

Tuesday 10th of January 2012

I am going back to work in less than a month. My daughter is 7 weeks old now. While I would love to stay home, I do like my job as a teacher. It is rewarding. My husband will watch our baby and frankly, he is probably even better at the day to day care than I am. He is very nurturing and I have no doubts about his ability to care for our daughter.

Here is the new angle: Living on one salary means that we are only dependent on one salary. If I should loose my job there are two of us to look for work. We double our chances of finding work. Or we could maybe both work part time.If he was offered a great job, then I could stay home. I am not one hundred percent sure if this is actually financially sound, but I feel good knowing that we really don't need as much money to live well.

We have done lots of things to save money now that we have a child. We use hand-me-downs almost exclusively. I have not bought our daughter any clothes. This can be a hard temptation to resist, but thankfully her cousins and our friends all had great tastes. We are using cloth diapers-which were also handed down. We love them! I love knowing that we are saving lots of money and she has been diaper rash free so far. They haven't been too much work at all. We are also breastfeeding and I plan to do that as long as I can.

CelloMom

Tuesday 10th of January 2012

I have two children, and both times I squeezed what I could out of the Federal Family Act, and worked 4days/wk for two years (squeezed the company for the additional year!). I loved my job.

But when my youngest was two, I was laid off. It was the best thing they did for me since they hired me.

Lauren

Tuesday 10th of January 2012

I'm a mom of an 11 month old, and I went back to work when she was 5 months old. Luckily I have a job that allows me to work from home a few days a week, so she only goes to daycare 3 days a week. I really like my schedule, and actually, the two days I'm in the office make almost seem like a break because taking care of a baby is HARD WORK!

Maybe I'm strange, but I didn't cry on my first day back to work. And she really like going to daycare because there are other babies to play with and much cooler toys than the ones in our home ;)

I might not feel the way if I had to be in the office 5 days a week with a one hour commute each way, but I really think part-time work or some work from home work is the way to go if at all possible. It seems like something you could look into since you seems to work in software/computers (I think).