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Is It Greed, Bad Manners or Something Else

I’m not sure how you supply Halloween candy to the adorable trick-or-treaters that knock on your door, but I hold the bowl out in front of the kids and let them choose the two pieces they really want.

It’s funny to watch the kids decide which ones to take. Some shout out their favorite and then pick it up, (I heard “oh pixie sticks” about twenty times on Halloween night), others swirl their finger over the candy before choosing and a few others quietly pick a piece from the bowl and move on.

While I know a lot of adults hand out candy, I really prefer to let the kids decide for themselves. For the most part this works perfectly.

Each time I open the door, I say “Happy Halloween” followed by “you can choose two pieces of candy from the bowl.” Sometimes I have to urge a child to take more than one, but most of the children politely pick two of their choosing.

Of course, for every ten well mannered children there is always one that disobeys my instructions. That child thrusts his hands into the bowl, pulls out a fist full of candy, quickly throws it into his bag and dashes away from my front door.

Now these aren’t little children. I am pretty certain that all of the kids that took those fist fulls of candy could understand what I said and just chose to ignore me.

At the end of the night one teenager stuck both hands into the bowl and pulled out so many pieces they were literally falling out of his hands and onto the ground.

I asked him please not to take so many, as we were running out of candy and I wanted to keep the light on for the small kids in the neighborhood. He dropped some of the pieces from one hand, but retained all the candy in his right hand.

So I wonder if so many children can follow my orders why can’t they all? Are these other children greedy, do they have bad manners or is it something else entirely?

One Frugal Girl

Saturday 6th of November 2010

@spaghetti0625 - I love the story of your two nephews :-) I've never taken my niece and nephew out shopping, but I bet they would both be well behaved.

@scuttleboose - I got a lot of those same looks from parents and surprise by a lot of the kids too.

@anonymous - I did consider handing out the candy to the older children, but I like all of the children to pick their own.

@anonymous - I loved trick or treating and Halloween parties. Bobbing for apples was always a hoot!

Anonymous

Thursday 4th of November 2010

My husband and I talked about how much we miss tricker treating this year. We want so badly to dress up and go out, but hate bars and there isn't a lot to do if you don't attend bar parties. We looked without success. Tricker treating was one of my favorite holidays as a kid and it makes me sad that adults and teenagers are shamed from doing it. I think if you put out the effort to do a costume and go door to door it should be "allowed". We gave out about $40 in candy this year and would have gladly spent much more than that to be able to go tricker treating. Why is it only for kids? Boo! (I'm 35 and he's 43)

Anonymous

Thursday 4th of November 2010

I let the little children pick and choose but I do not let the older children because at that point they've learned to grab and run. It also really annoys me when I see teenagers come. Seriously? Go out and buy your own! I used to keep candy I didn't like for them (Good & Plenty).

Newlyweds on a Budget

Wednesday 3rd of November 2010

I think it's a combination of both. c'est la vie.

Robin

Wednesday 3rd of November 2010

Extremely bad parenting and extremely bad mannered children. But it always starts with the parents.