I’m not sure how you supply Halloween candy to the adorable trick-or-treaters that knock on your door, but I hold the bowl out in front of the kids and let them choose the two pieces they really want.
It’s funny to watch the kids decide which ones to take. Some shout out their favorite and then pick it up, (I heard “oh pixie sticks” about twenty times on Halloween night), others swirl their finger over the candy before choosing and a few others quietly pick a piece from the bowl and move on.
While I know a lot of adults hand out candy, I really prefer to let the kids decide for themselves. For the most part this works perfectly.
Each time I open the door, I say “Happy Halloween” followed by “you can choose two pieces of candy from the bowl.” Sometimes I have to urge a child to take more than one, but most of the children politely pick two of their choosing.
Of course, for every ten well mannered children there is always one that disobeys my instructions. That child thrusts his hands into the bowl, pulls out a fist full of candy, quickly throws it into his bag and dashes away from my front door.
Now these aren’t little children. I am pretty certain that all of the kids that took those fist fulls of candy could understand what I said and just chose to ignore me.
At the end of the night one teenager stuck both hands into the bowl and pulled out so many pieces they were literally falling out of his hands and onto the ground.
I asked him please not to take so many, as we were running out of candy and I wanted to keep the light on for the small kids in the neighborhood. He dropped some of the pieces from one hand, but retained all the candy in his right hand.
Are these children greedy, do they have bad manners or is it something else entirely? I recognize that some children may not understand my instructions, but given that these are much older kids, typically in a group with many other teenagers, I am pretty certain they understand me.