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How To Live a Good, Happy Life Without Money

How To Live a Good, Happy Life Without Money

I sit on the floor, surrounded by a group of smiling first graders. “What do you want to be when you grow up,” I ask. Their hands shoot up high into the air as they enthusiastically call out their answers.

  • “A doctor.”
  • “A nurse.”
  • “A basketball player.”
  • “A builder.”
  • “A teacher.”
  • “A zookeeper.”

They are so excited they have a hard time waiting for their turn to share. As we go around the room, each child speaks confidently about their desired career.

Their futures are full of possibilities. They have big plans to live their best life and no fear that they may fail.

After class, I reminiscence about my childhood desires when an unexpected longing arises from deep within. A desire to go back to a time before obligations, bills and responsibilities altered my goals. A desire to live the best life I dreamed about as a kid.

Live Your Best Life

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” How did you answer this question when you were a child?

Around the age of ten or eleven, I wrote a report about the greatest speeches of American presidents. Speeches like John F. Kennedy’s “We Choose To Go To The Moon”:

“But why, some say, the Moon? Why choose this as our goal? And they may well ask, why climb the highest mountain? Why, 35 years ago, fly the Atlantic? We choose to go to the Moon! We choose to go to the Moon in this decade and do the other things, not because they are easy, but because they are hard…”

Or Ronald Reagan’s Brandenburg Gate Speech:

“General Secretary Gorbachev, if you seek peace, if you seek prosperity for the Soviet Union and Eastern Europe, if you seek liberalization: Come here to this gate! Mr. Gorbachev, open this gate! Mr. Gorbachev, tear down this wall!”

At the time, I couldn’t imagine anything more thrilling than becoming a speechwriter. (Looking back, I suppose I was an unusual kid.) I was certain I could write the words that would inspire a nation.

Of course, that never happened. I graduated with a degree in English Literature and went on to become a software engineer. I enjoyed my career, but I never forgot about that original goal. Even now, three decades after I first dreamed about it.

What Is Important To Me?

At some point in our lives, we lose sight of the aspirations of our childhood. We stop asking the fundamental question, “What is important to me?” As adults, we become too busy with daily obligations to ask ourselves, “What do I value?”, “What do I care about?”, “What do I want to be?”, or “What makes me happy?”

Adulthood is messy and complicated. It muddies our thoughts and makes those questions difficult to answer. Some of us grow up and forget about our childhood dreams altogether.

I will never become a speechwriter. In fact, I no longer aspire to become one, but that doesn’t mean I’ve completely forgotten about my dreams.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want to do with my life.

Mortality Provides Clarity

When I sit down to contemplate the options, I find it difficult to narrow down my choices. After feeling frustrated by my lack of progress, I begin to reframe my thinking. Rather than asking, “what do I want to be when I grow up?” I find myself asking, “What do I want to do with the rest of my life?”

When I get stuck, I reword the question again. This time I ask, “What would I do if I only had six months to live?” Then I ask,

  • “Who would I want to visit or talk to?”
  • “What do I want to achieve?”
  • “What would I regret not doing before I died?”

The fear of mortality helps drive my hazy ideas into clear focus. If I knew my time was up, I wouldn’t want to waste a single moment of it. Would you?

Find a quiet place and reflect on these questions.

How to Live a Happy Life Without Money

How can you live a happy life without money? It’s a question few of us ask ourselves, but to figure out how to live the life you want without money, you must begin by asking a different set of questions.

If these were your last days, where would you want to spend your energy? On your spouse, children, religion, health, philanthropy, or something else entirely? Are you spending your time on those things now? If not, why not?

Okay, let’s pause here. You probably think I can’t spend all that time and energy on the things I love. I have to go to work. I have a job. Remember those bills I have to pay?

But life shouldn’t just be about giant houses, fancy cars, and a bank full of extra commas. Many of us step through the motions of life, mindlessly earning, and spending.

We waste our precious hours trying to make more money and then quickly spend nearly every cent we make.

Money impacts our day-to-day transactions, our jobs, and our focus. That doesn’t mean we need material possessions or even a lifetime of exciting experiences. Most of us yearn for quality relationships, time with our loved ones, and passionate projects to pursue.

A life well lived focuses on friendships, family, meaning, purpose, and love. You know all those things money can’t buy.

That may be true, but we still need to earn money to keep the lights turned on and ensure the garbage gets taken away.

So how can we make the most of our time right now? How do we live our best life if we have to keep working? Is it possible to live a simpler, happy life without a lot of money?

Carving Out Time

Before I had children, I was convinced that I had zero time to spare in a day. How could I spend any time on the things that mattered?

I was spending all of my time working, commuting, eating three meals, hitting the gym, and sleeping? There was little to no time left for anything else.

But you know what? It wasn’t true. Most of us have spare time. Many of us choose to fritter it away.

According to the American Time Use Survey, women spend 4.9 hours on leisure activities per day while men spend 5.7. The average American spends 2.8 hours watching television.

Now we know that life shouldn’t be all work and no play. We need time to decompress and relax, but we can also use this as an excuse to waste our precious hours.

An Example of Wasted Time

Let me give you an example from my own life. For years my husband and I sat side by side on the couch after work watching television.

During this time, we stared straight ahead, watching the Discovery channel or some nerdy documentary. When the show was over, I went back upstairs to work on my computer, and he went downstairs to work on his. We spent time in the same room, but we may as well have been miles apart. 

Then it got worse. We stopped watching television together after our first son was born. We lived in separate parts of the house, and slowly, over time, we began to fail one another.

A simple shift in our behavior dramatically improved our relationship. Rather than coming home, vacating to our separate rooms, or sitting side by side watching TV, we began to sit down, grab a drink and talk to one another.

Sometimes we do this on the couch, out on the stoop in front of our house, or in the thirty-year-old hot tub that came with the house we bought over two decades ago.

I knew my relationship was important, yet I did absolutely nothing to strengthen it. I am ashamed to say I ignored the things I most valued.

Escaping the 9-to-5

Many of us think we have to quit our jobs to pursue our passions and find time for the things we love. While it’s great if you can escape the 9-to-5 quitting isn’t a requirement for living a better life.

In fact, in some ways, the race to FI (financial independence) and FIRE (financial independence retire early) may be the worst thing you can do. Inundating your life with money-making side hustles and extreme frugality can make you feel downright gloomy.

At FinCon, I met a few individuals who were working themselves ragged. One guy I met sat in his basement, typing up three posts a week.

It took him eight hours to write a post and a few more hours to edit it. This poor guy was running out of ideas for new content, suffering from writer’s block, and frustrated by his lack of website traffic.

Now, in addition to working his 9-to-5 job, he was miserable working at his side-hustle too.

Find Contentment to Live Your Best Life

Instead of trying to escape from the pain points of our lives, what if we embraced the good parts and focused on the things we truly value?

Read through the questions in this post and figure out how to carve out time for the people and things that matter. It’s nice to have a month off to travel the globe, but it’s just as important to find peace, love, and understanding each and every day.

I would argue that it’s more important to find contentment in the simplest of ways. That’s much more valuable than believing you need big trips and adventures to make life worthwhile.

How Can You Live Your Best Life Right Now?

If you cannot quit our day job, what can you do to live your best life right now? How can you live life to the fullest without money (at least without tons of it), and still feel joyful and fulfilled? 

  1. Do something you love. Carve out a few minutes each day to do something you truly love. Sit on your front porch and drink tea. Spend five minutes meditating or stretching. Go for a short run. Paint, write, sing, or dance in your living room.
  2. Reach out to someone you love. Snuggle your children before bedtime. Give your kids a giant hug before they head to school. Sit with your partner and listen to the best parts of his or her day. Call your mom. Text your best friend.
  3. Live in the moment. Be present in your life. Step outside, feel the way the wind blows, or the way the newly cut grass smells. Put your phone away when you are talking to your children, partner, parents, and coworkers.
  4. Show your appreciation. Tell your parents, partner, and children how much you love them. Thank your coworker for completing a project on time. Thank your child’s teacher for being there on a particularly hard day.
  5. Be the best version of yourself. Imagine today was your last day on earth. Would you want to spend it fighting with someone you love? Try your best to mend broken bridges, and be sure not to burn new ones. Forgive to the best of your ability. How do you want others to remember you? Live each day that way.
  6. Spend your time wisely. Don’t waste your most limited resource (time) on TV and social media. Carve out time in advance for the things that matter. Read, learn a new skill, volunteer, exercise, and spending quality time with the ones you love.
  7. Find your passion, but don’t feel pressured to do it for money. If you love to write, then begin writing. If you love to paint, start painting. You don’t have to turn your passion into a business. First, find the joy in creating. If you succeed, you can always monetize it later.

How to Live a Good Life Without Money

Can you live a good life without money? Of course, you don’t need a lot of money to live your best life. You can learn how to enjoy life without money. Refocusing your time is much more important than money ever will be. Remember that your success will not be defined by the number of investments in your bank accounts.

Now don’t get me wrong. If you can afford to start working towards financial independence, by all means, start your journey. Just remember not to sacrifice the things that matter right now.

Time will always be more valuable than money. Make the most of your moments. Learn how to live a happy life without money, because there will never be another now.

Bright

Thursday 10th of February 2022

Your post has been very helpful and thanks a lot for sharing.

One Frugal Girl

Thursday 10th of February 2022

Thank you.

Franca Whyte

Monday 20th of April 2020

Living your best life may seem difficult, it is within your grasp. You can learn to embrace happiness and achieve inner peace simply by changing and incorporating some healthy habits into your life. Sometimes living up to your full potential is just about taking the time for self-care. Taking little moments to meditate, journal, and goal-set can make all the difference. Craving a glass of wine and dark chocolate? Give in to that desire, because treating yourself can be just as important as working hard. Actually, I was feeling stuck in the rut until I came across this blog post, I find it so helpful and informative. I think I will have to bookmark it to share with a few of my friends, thanks writer for this.

Rene @ Spokane Photographer

Tuesday 21st of January 2020

Fabulous post! It is definitely the small things in life that count. One thing I am CONSTANTLY try to do is live in the moment. I hope to meditate more to make it simpler. One of my other goals is to read more books!

One Frugal Girl

Wednesday 22nd of January 2020

It is a constant battle to stay in the moment. That is the hardest part of all.

Chris @ Mindful Explorer

Thursday 17th of October 2019

Love this post One Frugal Girl. The reason I like it so much is you speak to the guiding path that I am so passionate about, mindfulness. You are working towards being very aware of yourself and what is around you. All the best on your journey.

One Frugal Girl

Thursday 17th of October 2019

Thank Chris. I'm working on it. It's a journey that never ends.

Katie

Wednesday 16th of October 2019

I just really loved this. A lot. :)

One Frugal Girl

Thursday 17th of October 2019

Awww. Thanks.