Every few weeks or so my husband and I meet my parents for dinner at a restaurant half-way between their house and ours. We typically eat at low-to-mid range restaurants, like Red Robin or Macaroni Grill and the typical meal ranges in the $10 – $15 range. Most of the time we split the bill in half. While my parents don’t always allow us to pay, we do offer money every time we go out.
Who Pays for Dinner with Your Girlfriend’s Parents?
My husband will always offer to pay when we go out to dinner with my parents. He’s been doing this since we first started dating and the pattern hasn’t stopped just because we’ve been married for a few years.
He believes it’s always important to share or even pay the entire bill. If my parents want to pay they decline his offer, but he will always present his credit card as a gesture of good will.
Who Pays for Dinner with My Parents?
While we pay our fair share when my husband and I are out together, it’s a totally different story when I go out with my parents alone. If my parents take me out to lunch or dinner without my husband I almost never pay. This is in part because I don’t always offer and also because when I do offer I’m usually refused.
My dad is retired and my mom works a part-time, relatively low paying job, so I’d definitely like to contribute more when we go out together. After all my husband and I are actively employed and combined we make more than a decent living.
So every time I go out with my parents I’m torn. On one hand I know that they love to take care of me and provide for me. On the other hand I know that I can afford the meal much better than they can.
So what do you think? Do you think I should take control of the bill and pay more often or continue to allow my parents to pay for me? It’s not a lot of money and we don’t go out together often, but I don’t want to impose on my parents and at the same time I don’t want to pay if that makes them feel uncomfortable.
Every time I offer they say, “we’re so happy to be with you. we love you. we want to pay for you.” I guess the question is whether or not I should let them.
Who Pays for Dinner with Family?
I asked a group of friends for their suggestions and created a list of their answers below:
- The youngest party always pays for the eldest. In this case the kids always pay for their parents.
- The oldest party always pays for the youngest. In this case the parents always pay for the kids.
- Both parties always split the bill. This can involve splitting it equally or paying for what you ordered. Among family it usually makes sense to split the bill evenly, but if you tend to have a relative who orders extravagant meals then you may choose to pay only for what you ordered.
- Each family takes turns. One time the kids pay for the bill and the next time the parents cover the tab. This can get tricky because you have to keep track of who paid. You also have to account for the difference between restaurants. After all, one restaurant might cost a whole lot more than another. It helps if you let the paying party choose where they want to eat, because they can choose how much they want to spend.
Who Pays for Dinner When Parents Meet?
Lastly, when our parents first met my husband and I offered to pay for the entire meal ourselves. Since we were hosting the get-together it seemed reasonable for us to pay. These days we tend to split the bill evenly when both families dine together. We don’t itemize each item. We simply spilt the bill into thirds and each pay an equal share.