Here’s a question for you…
The other day a woman stood in the return merchandise line at Target with an overflowing cart of baby items. When she reached the cashier she explained that many of the items were duplicates from her registry and that she’d like to return them. The cashier struck up a conversation with the woman and mid-way through the conversation the woman admitted that she’d simply rather have a Target gift card than a cart full of cute baby clothes, blankets and other associated baby items. She told the cashier that she was returning nearly 90% of the items she received from her baby shower.
The cashier was intrigued and began probing the woman with a whole bunch of questions. Ultimately, the woman explained that new babies don’t need that much stuff. She said she was happy with the basics which included a few onesies, diapers, wipes and a baby sling, but she knew that her family and friends wanted to throw her a shower and she knew she couldn’t ask them all for money. So she created a registry at a place she likes to shop with the full intention of returning just about everything she received.
She picked Target because she can buy baby supplies like diapers and wipes when necessary, but also because it’s place where she can pick up other household items like groceries. I hate to admit it, but I eavesdropped on their entire conversation. I was extremely intrigued by her thought process.
When I got married nearly five years ago I considered not registering for gifts because my husband and I simply didn’t need much other stuff in our lives. Eventually friends and family convinced me to create a registry. They rightly assumed that people would buy us things and that they might as well buy us things I actually liked and wanted.
I suppose most bride and grooms and parents-to-be really want cash and gift cards in place of household and baby items they may or may not want or need. I can see why the woman wanted the flexibility to purchase what she wants, when she wants it, but at the same time it’s sad to think that her friends and family went out and purchased items she fully intended to return.
So what do you think? Do you think it’s wrong to create a registry with the full intention of returning 90% of the items you receive?